I composed this one a few days ago but have been hesitant about posting it. Maybe for fear of putting cranky vibes out there. So let’s look at it more like a public service announcement.
There are always risks when putting yourself out there. Whether is criticism to your thoughts or beliefs. Heartbreak in love. Or just plain vulnerability. But there’s a risk you don’t often think about.
The vibe killer. We’ve all heard the phrase ‘misery loves company’. But sometimes the company doesn’t mean it. Like when you want to lose weight and you tell your fellow chunky buddy about your plan to lose it. They say they support you but deep down, they don’t want to be chunky alone. You get me? Let me explain where this is all coming from.
There is this checker at the Whole Foods down the street. I first met her when I just barely started chemo. I probably would have met her earlier but I couldn’t step foot near the Whole Foods while pregnant without projectile vomiting. This is not an exaggeration.
My hair was shaved and my port was obvious when we met. So she was confident when she asked me about my treatment and how I was feeling. You know me. You know I am an open book. So I told her I was feeling great, just a little tired, blah blah blah. The usual.
She then told me about her daughter’s father who has cancer, was not doing well, it had come back, things were not looking well… She told me all of this before I found my personal mantra of “That’s not me. That’s not my story” so it got to me. Never, ever tell someone who is fighting this beast about someone who is losing or lost. Please.
She speaks like this every time I see her. Never sharing any good news.
Vibes have strength. They reach the person you are talking to but they also reach the person you are talking about. Without realizing it, she was hurting me and scaring me. And the lack of positivity was in no way helping her daughter’s father.
Now, I know that she means no harm. I still see her weekly and she always checks on me and asks how I am holding up. But never with a smile, more like pity. Perhaps she is looking for me to console her during this hard time in her life. Maybe she’s looking for a bummer buddy to sulk with. I can’t do that. Not because I am selfish and it should be about me. But because I want her change her outlook, to look at the positive side of things and not cling to the awful stuff. When I ask her about him, I don’t do it with frown on my face. I smile at her, tell her it’s great that he is fighting so hard. And that she is a good person for going over to his house to help him and make sure he is taking care of himself.
This long post is to remind us all that the vibes we put out there reach further than we realize. We need to try and stay positive even through the shittiest of times. For everyone’s sake.
And it’s totally possible that she’s just this kind of person, always a little whah whah. You know that noise I’m trying to make right? Whah whah. Anyways, just a reminder to monitor yourself. Chickity-check yo self before you wreck yo self. Or others.
Mama's Got This 
Very positive… Thank you for posting this…
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Jessica
I thought about this today and want to share…. something I saw when I had cancer and stuck with me and I would visualize it…I saw this strange little commercial or segment or whatever….it was a cartoon type. A human body and inside was this little man operating a computer. This computer was monitoring the heart, lungs, liver, everything in our body. All the sudden the door opens and in comes this black monster type character and the little man operating the computer says to the black monster, you are not supposed to be in here, get out!!!! So this black monster starts multiplying quickly. Turns out it’s cancer…the little man starts pressing all the buttons on the computer and sends out sirens for help…..eventually the black monster shrivels up and is gone….cancer gone….I loved it and would pretend that little man was in my body, operating my computer…..today it’s 4 years….try him….hugs
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Keeping that positive attitude is absolutely the best thing you can do for yourself and others you meet! We are so proud of you, and that you are able to keep the faith! We definitely are keeping the faith in you also!! With love from Carol and Gene 😘😘💕
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JESSICA GREAT ARTICLE ON POSITIVE VIBES!
MANY AREN’T AWARE OF THE VIBES AKA ENERGY THEY RADIATE. YOU ARE! THANK GOODNESS!!! HOLDING AND MAINTAINING YOURSELF AT A HIGH VIBRATION CAN MOVE MOUNTAINS!!! MANY DON’T KNOW ENOUGH ABOUT IT SO IT’S NOT PRACTICED BY THE NON SPIRITUAL WORLD. I FIRST HAND… KNOW THE POWER OF POSITIVITY!!!! IT’S BEEN PROVEN IN MY LIFE NUMEROUS TIMES. STAY AWAY FROM NEGATIVE VIBRATIONS!!!
THEY ONLY BRING YOU DOWN. You KNOW WHEN YOU ARE IN THE MIDST OF POSITIVE VIBES – you can feel it!
Surround yourself with people who radiate positivity. No time for the negative…. keep moving forward! Perhaps visit another market. There are MANY wonderful people who need encouragement.
Be that example to other’s you see in your situation! Uplift their hearts, show off your enthusiasm! Revel in the delight of your positive happy demeanor! Be the leader that you are and show others the way!
Visualizing the end of the tunnel with your family’s faces beaming at you, oh so proud of you, admiring your strength!!! You did it!!! You made it to the finish line is all you need to be focusing on! It’s yours for the taking! Don’t waste a moment with negative delusions… tisk task. Jump rope right over them! No one knows your thoughts and dreams and goals but YOU. NO body else matters but YOU! WHEN faced with negative vibes, turn around and say.” Thank you for sharing.. but your not me! And run in the other direction. Your word for the week is FOCUS ….. focus pocus on JESSICA!!!! STAY ON THE HIGH ROAD!!!!!!
Sending you love, courage, strength, and High Vibrations to my beautiful powerful Neice!!!
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